scarletthadasuddentreacherousdesiretocryout，“butyou’vebeenhy，andyouandtheraren’talike，”butsherepressedit，fearingthathewouldboxherearsforheriertinence

“ourpeopleandthewilkesaredifferent，”hewentonslowly，fulingforwords“thewilkesaredifferentfronyofourneighbors—differentfronyfalyieverknewtheyarequeerfolk，andit’sbestthattheyrrytheirusinsandkeeptheirqueernesstotheelves”

“why，pa，ashleyisnot—”

“holdyourwhist，puss!isaidnothingagainstthed，forilikehindwhenisayqueer，it’snotcrazyi’eaninghe’snotqueerlikethecalvertswho’dgaleeverythingtheyhaveonahorse，orthetarletonswhoturnoutadrunkardortwoineverylitter，orthefontaineswhoarehot-headedlittlebrutesandafterrderinganforafanciedslightthatkindofqueernessiseasytounderstandforsure，andbutforthegraceofgodgeraldo’harawouldbehavingallthosefaults!andidon’tanthatashleywouldrunoffwithanotherwon，ifyouwerehiswife，orbeatyouyou’dbehierifhedid，foratleastyou’dbeunderstandingthatbuthe’squeerinotherways，andthere’snounderstandinghitallilikehibutit’sneitherheadsnortailsicankeofsthesaysnow，puss，telltrue，doyouunderstandhisfolderoboutbooksandpoetryandsicandoilpaintingsandsuchfoolishness”

“oh，pa，”criedscarlettiatiently，“ifirriedhii’dchangeallthat!”

“oh，youwould，wouldyounow”saidgeraldtestily，shootingasharplookather“thenit’slittleenoughyouareknowingofanynliving，letaloneashleynowifehaseverchangedahusbandonewhit，anddon’tyoubefettingthatandasforchangingawilkes—god’snightgown，daughter!thewholefalyisthatway，andthey’vealwaysbeenthatwayandprobablyalwayswillitellyouthey’rebornqueerlookatthewaytheygotearinguptonewyorkandbostontohearoperasandseeoilpaintingsandorderingfrenchandgernbooksbythecratefroheyankees!andtheretheysitreadinganddreangthedeargodknowswhat，whenthey’dbebetterspendingtheirtihuntingandpyingpokeraspropernshould”

以上摘自美国小说《飘》

以上文字很有意思，特別是scarlett的父亲一句没有哪个妻子能够成功改变丈夫一厘一毫……，太有意思了，东西方文化虽不同，人之本性相同，本性天生而来，要改变本性是不能的，有的只是对于本性的约束。

男人和女人结合，本质是本性的互相理解和接纳，但不是互相改变。

〈待续〉